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Post by Katie on Apr 9, 2009 6:22:27 GMT
How has being a survivor of abuse effected your relationships?
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Post by brokeninside on Apr 9, 2009 13:12:39 GMT
It makes you less willing to trust people... for me I always have a guard up that people have to get past before they see the 'real me' I don't like telling people things in case they use it against me... It's taken me 5 months to really open up to my boyfriend...
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Post by farawayfairy on Apr 10, 2009 18:36:19 GMT
Do you mean romantic relationships or any type?
With relationships in general then I've always had very big problems with trust although that has slightly improved now since having a really understanding counsellor a few years ago. I still find it very hard to get close to people though and find it very hard to make friendships.
Romantically wise - well, I have very little trust in men and feel quite intimidated by them when in a close environment. I've only ever had one 'normal' experience with a boy and it shook me up a lot because of some past stuff and also the attitudes I was raised with.
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Post by Katie on Apr 10, 2009 18:54:31 GMT
Any type of relationships.  For me it's a case of 'what romantic relationships?' Because I have had... nada. Zilch. My Katrina is proud of that, because she says people only hurt me and so keep people out... I'm only now being able to have meaningful regular relationships. Although I still find being social very hard. |
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Post by farawayfairy on Apr 10, 2009 19:47:22 GMT
I hadn't had any romantic relationships until very recently and even then it only last for a few weeks. People tend to think I'm strange because I've never had a boyfriend.
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Post by Silent_Darkness on May 8, 2009 16:44:03 GMT
General.... Ive built up a wall, and until recently, I didnt let anyone in! Now I have learnt to let a few people in And allow them to be close to me. Two of my close friends are guys... letting them in was hard to do But its kinda helped me a bit I think change my views on guys - Theyre not all bad. though still working on that!
Relationship wise.... hmm, well not had relationship that lasted more than a day or so in about 7 years..... Couldnt handle them being near me Couldnt be the girlfriend they expected. Found it hard to hug them for starters so hmm yeah .... I only really went out with them because I felt bad for being single so long, thought it was what I had to do and friends laughing Yeah I know not good idea Learnt from that
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Post by brokeninside on May 10, 2009 18:15:55 GMT
I dated a few people but they didn't last coz they couldn't accept me as I was and I wasn't able to open up to them. I've been dating a guy for 7 months now though and its great coz hes really patient and understanding. He can accept me even on my despressed/ suicidal days. I still have a lot of trouble letting him get close to me though
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Post by whirlpools on May 10, 2009 19:10:07 GMT
i really struggle socially too, and am very isolated. i haven't had any romantic/sexual relationships.
i seem to get on quite well with people generally. though my social anxiety prevents me from talking to people/going out, so i tend to just smile at people. i tend to get on okay with professionals.
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Post by becky68 on Jun 3, 2009 12:46:37 GMT
i like people alot but insecure and afraid they arent going to like me, guys.. i dont trust have big wall up i sometimes just dont know what to say,its hard to find someone really feel comfortable around.
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